Shy engineer dating
There is nothing wrong with picking someone up in a bar, but you can do it with integrity—and without a furry hat.♦◊♦When I was single and going out to “unz unz” nightclubs, I didn’t hook up with guys who approached me. Sudden strange attention throws us into an scary, uncomfortable space we’re all too familiar with—and want out of. I chose guys who made friendly eye contact with me, who smiled, who struck up a conversation when we were near each other and unoccupied.♦◊♦You’ve experienced a pickup if you’ve heard things like, “Hey, what’s this from: ‘Nobody puts Baby in a corner’?
” or “You look like trouble.” To which, four years ago, I would be like, “No, I’m ‘&Hearts’; ‘Trouble’ is Katie’s My Space name.
And be real—true to yourself and the things you care about.
After “Hi,” try some personal insight—it doesn’t have to be worked out all the way.
In fact, my social anxiety was so bad back in high school that…Befriend or beware: the ladies of Beach Island have their own goals and ambitions. It could be Muriel, the ambitious tomboy with a crafty eye, Vera, the shy engineer with a passion for electronics, or Esther, the pragmatic single mom who only wants to go home.