Because their nests are so costly, many men give up on their personal desires and dreams to build them, so things like “a woman with shared interests” becomes less important.
Why date a girl with shared interests if you had to give up all your hobbies to attract her? I’ve seen too many men give away too much of themselves trying to attract women with their material success.
I have observed, from going to lesbian venues, that a few things matter a lot when I’m trying to date women..
And, maybe you think that lesbians aren’t like straight women on this front, but enough of them are for it to be inconvenient.
I think for me, dating a woman who can support herself is an absolute necessity for this reason, but uh…Men, on the other hand, have been brainwashed into being ATMs.