Dating fatherless man
Although I had left it far too long to get back on the dating horse, I was relieved to find that I had successfully rewired myself.
He was kind and warm, childlike and intelligent and reliable. More than two years later, he is in the next room of our home making occasional huffing noises because we just had a bit of a fight.
According to Barras, these women are in constant search for their fathers.
She states, “Fatherless daughters speak their fathers’ names, see their fathers’ faces, and desperately try to recapture their fathers’ love with every man they meet” (p. – Women who fall under this category fear rejection, abandonment, and commitment.
These women are constantly plagued with questions of whether they will be rejected and abandoned.
This makes it difficult for them to make commitments or emotional investments.
I was really only in it for the practice anyway, so I kept my distance. I received a message on my online profile from an unusual person.
One critical work is that by Jonetta Rose Barras, (2000), a must read for women whose fathers were not present in their lives.
They fear that they will be left, so rather than be rejected or abandoned, they will not allow themselves to become too emotionally involved and avoid making a commitment.
They might even pick men who will duplicate the same experiences they had with their fathers.
This advice didn’t come from any religious prudery or sense of shame.
Rather, Spinoza thought that sex and romantic relationships got in the way of the real meat and potatoes of life: reason and understanding.
They are plagued with the notion that the only way someone will love them is if they do something spectacular.