Dating expectations boys and girls
People say things like “I don’t need my students to like me” in the teachers’ lounge and that seems to earn them a badge of honor.It’s like we’ve been trained to respect the hard ass, and judge the teacher that students actually enjoy. But I’ve seen the “cool teacher” come in all ages, shape, colors, and sizes.I realize this might sound sappy, but my advice for teachers is to try to get students to like you.Not because you want to be the cool teacher, but because you want your students to learn.They are way more likely to really learn from someone that they like. Teachers, put on your outfits that were only stylish 15 years ago.Your loose-fitting JC Penney khakis, that new dress shirt you got at Kohl’s, and those athletic socks with brown leather shoes.I couldn’t promise he would magically be the most popular kid in school, but I could promise people would like being around him.Generally—and this is not only true about romance—people are drawn to people who are more interested in others than themselves.
Not only did he not know how to talk to a girl he liked, but he also thought this awkward 34-year-old white guy who tries to teach English in his neighborhood high school was a good place to start. I told him that every person I ever met likes to talk about themselves.
Shoot.” He stuttered in a way that that was slightly more uncomfortable than usual for him, so I knew he wasn’t asking me about an essay or an assignment.