Dating a man 18 years older than me
I’m assuming (and I’m really not sure, because I’ve never slept with anyone who wasn’t well into their twenties) there’s a vim and vigour that comes from sleeping with someone much younger than you.
Especially when I was in my late teens and very early twenties, new to London and nervous about the world around me.
If you are wishy-washy at all about itn then you may be in for a storm. Then whatever anyone says (including your parents) doesn't matter. AND MORE IMPORTANTLY what YOU think about what they think. You are worried about what's going to happen, you are dreading breaking the news... If they don't like it will it tear you apart inside?
People will say bad things and people will say good things. you are absolutely right about being confident in what i'm doing, and i DO believe in what i am doing with him. There really is no way you can know what they will think... Will it tear apart the relationship you believe in?
It's not at all that i fell in love with the wrong person, because i don't feel he is the wrong person at all, our only "problem" if any in our relationship is the age gap. As a dad, seeing that my daughter brings home a 40 (almost) year old guy... How important is the statement "age is just a number" to you?
But every woman I know has dated people who have treated her badly.
I saw dating as a learning experience, and the idea of going to Pizza Express with a bloke I met at a house party before going home to shag him in his shared house? Dating much older men wasn’t purely perfect, and I would never pretend as much.
But when I look back at the relationships I was in before I settled down, I believe firmly that the negative aspects weren’t anything to do with our respective ages.
People can be selfish, struggle with commitment or refuse to communicate properly however old they are.
My long term relationship was a very mixed bag for all sorts of reasons, but the age gap wasn’t one of them.I liked the safety that came with going to dinner with someone who would choose the restaurant, tell me what time we were going to meet and carry on a conversation about the world around me.