Christian advice on dating after divorce
A survey of the Scriptures reveals God’s heart regarding divorce and some boundaries He has put in place to protect Christ-followers from it’s destruction. I believe God’s Word provides two compelling reasons Christ-followers should NOT date while separated and delay dating for a season after their divorce is finalized. Thus, dating while still married to someone else is a type of emotional adultery because you are not keeping the vow you made to God to share you’re your heart and your body only with your spouse. This becomes a real temptation when your spouse has already broken their vow and moved on because your flesh will want to do the same as well.Dating while separated begins the process of linking yourself to someone when you are not yet legally or biblically free to do so. I urge men and women I have counseled NOT to do the same because the Lord is watching how you will respond to that temptation.
However, I always challenge such thinking with a reminder of the sovereignty of God.), not to just give you what you want when you want it. Dating while separated is also sinful because it deceives the person you want to date by giving them the impression that you are legally and biblically available. Wisdom is the application of God’s Word for skillful living.And if necessary, He’ll use civil authorities and a disagreeable spouse to achieve this purpose (Pr. Dating under these circumstances is fraudulent because you are presenting yourself as being free---when you are not (Mk. It’s also unloving because you’re leading the person you date into your own tsunami before your reconstruction and healing has begun (Mk. For these reasons and more it is important to remember… Paul counseled the Corinthians that although something may be legal it does not mean it will be beneficial (1 Cor. Solomon urges us to persistently pursue wisdom so that we can obtain favor from the Lord (Pr. Without wisdom we “injure” ourselves and others (Pr. I generally counsel Christians who have recently gone through a divorce to wait at least 6 months, preferably a year after their divorce is final to begin dating again. Depending on the circumstances, even more time may be beneficial.At Focus on the Family, we've offered a range of resources and expert advice bringing biblical principles to bear in this area.
Some of the messages we've presented have taken the position that Christians can apply their faith in such a way that they can still work within the system they've inherited.There is no one in Heaven right now regretting that they waited on the Lord. I am not feeling entirely comfortable with this, and after reading this article it helps to explain why.